Brian Beneduce has always known something was wrong with him — very wrong. Even at a young age when his friends were enjoying activities as harmless as sleepovers, he would hyperventilate, sweat and tremble at the mere thought. He never told a soul.
As he got older his condition worsened. Open spaces, crowds, bridges, tunnels, elevators, planes and traffic all sent him into spells of debilitating fear and panic, but never more than when he would be trapped somewhere alone with his own thoughts, and would be convinced that “The Thing,” as he named it, would someday kill him.
Yet somehow, perhaps for the sake of his friends, for his wife or for his children, he vowed that he would find the willpower he needed to beat it — or would die trying.
Scared to Death…. Do It Anyway is one man’s inspirational and tumultuous journey told through the thoughts, feelings and secrets of an acute agoraphobic. It not only chronicles four decades of severe panic and anxiety attacks, but it also reveals the healing thought process of self-realization that helped him defeat “The Thing,” build a multimillion-dollar business, and discover a life of true happiness.
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Scared to Death - Do It Anyway
by Brian Beneduce
I never wanted to write this book. The mere thought of taking on such a project fills me with apprehension. I’ve never held great confidence in my writing abilities and I have always considered myself to be terrible at spelling and grammar. In fact back in high school, I barely passed English. But with recent advances in technology, including the development of speech recognition software, it has become possible for me to now convey my thoughts and feelings more naturally, and overcome those old excuses.
But my apprehension runs deeper than just fumbling with basic English syntax and sentence structure. It is rooted in the excruciating act of opening old wounds to bare my soul and myself as vulnerable in front of all the people who know me — or until now, who think they know me.
My biggest concern is always my children. When they were younger, I wasn’t able to explain that I had overcome so much to be the successful father they looked up to. Perhaps I thought they were too young yet to understand, or maybe I just wasn’t ready to tell them. Then later when they were older, discussing my anxiety and panic attacks with them was still a tremendous challenge for me, yet being the amazing kids that they are, they understood, and embraced me. They continue to look to me as a good father, a man of confidence and a man who values physical fitness and strength. And I remain grateful for that. But now with this book, there is another part of me they will learn about. After long heartfelt talks with my wife, my business partner, and a few other trusted friends, I came to accept that I am in possession of an important story that needs to be told. It’s a story of the torment I went through and how it shaped me as a person. And on a very personal level, it’s a story that I want my kids to hear and understand.
It’s also a story that will help others who have had to deal with severe fear and panic attacks. I have often found myself sitting in board meetings or coaching on baseball fields and been told, “Oh yeah,.. I know what you mean. I have anxiety and panic attacks, too!” Then I laugh to myself. Sure, everyone experiences nervousness and fear sometimes; it’s all part of being human. But very few understand how deep and debilitating a true panic and anxiety attack can be.
It is my hope that by writing this book, I can help explain that, and help all those people also afflicted with what I used to call, “the thing” by shedding light on not only what it did to me but also on how it shaped the man I have become.
There is a line in the movie Draft Day that says, “sometimes the correct path is the most tortured.” On some level, I agree. I recognize that there are many people in this world who have been through a lot worse than I, and I truly am thankful for all that I do have. But this book is my story. It is about an overpowering fear of not being able to leave my house. It’s a personal look at agoraphobia — a term I didn’t learn until I had suffered for years and reached the lowest, darkest point in my life. And it’s about a lonely burden I never shared with my loved ones. How could I? I was a role model for health and physical fitness. I was a leader. I was the strong one. I was the tough guy.
So now that all these years have passed, I am ready to tell my story. It is my hope that by reading about my embarrassing, funny, scary, heartbreaking and happiest moments, someone will be helped. And I hope that this won’t just help the children, adults, athletes, business professionals and others who struggle with anxiety and panic attacks every day, but it will also help the people who care and love them, so they will understand them just a little bit better.
And if you are a true sufferer like me, know that I do understand. And I invite you to use my story as a tool to retrieve your hopes, dreams and goals — whatever they may be.
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When Brian asked me to write a testimonial for Motivate for Success, I told him to have anyone he wants contact me. Motivate For Success is without a doubt the best workshop, seminar, presentation I have ever been to. After working with Brian, I started my own company, and with Brian's help I am a success.
There are plenty of so-called "motivational speakers" out there, and I am sure they are very good. Brian Beneduce worked with me one-on-one and has helped me reach my potential. I am now teaching other people within my organization what Brian has taught me.
Motivate for Success is not a one time shot. It becomes a way of life. It conditions you to emotionally and physically prepare yourself to be successful at whatever it may be. For kids it might be sports. For young adults it may be for interviewing and getting a job. For parents it could be learning to eliminate all of the static in your life and concentrate on "being in the moment." There are no magic pills or secrets for success. Brian presents real-life strategies that he has used for over 20 years in business that helped him reach the pinnacle in his profession.
I thought that his metaphors were great for individuals, he was eloquent and well spoken and he was overall a great speaker. I believe that I truly got something out of his presentation and I am very glad that I went.
I just wanted to let you know that I found Mr. Beneduce extremely helpful. I really like his story- I felt it was very real and honest. Most inspirational speakers are boring to listen to because they make the whole process of success seem so easy. This was not the case. I really enjoyed getting to know him, and I now feel like I can bring some of what he said into the upcoming season.